Are You Praying For Your Future Husband?

I have mentioned before praying for your future husband. This is a cliche thought to some of you, but I challenge you to really view it as a privilege and a challenge. Girls you were created for a specific man and as crazy as it sounds that man is out in this world somewhere. He is fighting daily battles, trying to find purpose in this life, and is maturing just like you are. He may be a little older or younger, close by or far away, he may already know God or he may not. The possibilities are endless as to where he is in his life. You have the amazing privilege of being his future wife. What are you going to do with that? God has chosen you to be his support, encouragement, and help meet. Why wait until you know that he is the "One" to begin being those things? You can choose to not only honor him now, but to pray for him and seek the Lord on his account! I've seen many books on the power of a praying wife, but what about a praying girlfriend or future wife? Prayer still has the same effect no matter where you are in the relationship! I pray constantly for my future husband. There are times in particular over my teen years that God has layed him on my heart. I have no idea what he was going through or why God layed him on my heart, but i know He did and i was faithful to intercede for him in prayer. Are you being faithful to your husband even now? I hope so! What are some things that you pray for your future husband? Below are some of mine! Girls we need to get it together... NOW is the time that matters! The decisions you and your future husband make now will determine your future and the make or break of your marriage. Quit waiting around... Now is the time to honor your husband!


I pray for...
~Wise Decision making
~A faithful relationship with God
~That he honors his parents
~That he honors me
~Good grades
~Hard working
~Doesn't go to far with other girls
~Fights any temptation
~Gets enough rest
~Has Godly friends
~Has proper priorities

Praying for and with you girls!

JEN

Awesome Book!

Hey gals! So I read a lot of books and this is one that I just finished. It was phenominal! It is good for single girls and married girls. I highly encourage you to read it and let me know what you think! :) Also, if you have read it did you like it??

LOVE

Ignorance is a beautiful thing!

I'm sure you had a question or two come across your mind when you read the title, but it's the truth! There are a very few things that you can say ignorance is a good thing to. One of them though is Sexuality. Still a little confused? I figure most of you are... :) In our world today media, Internet, magazines, songs, TV, movies, everything basically tells you that you need to "Know" what you are doing. You should be so good at it that you are "smooth". I have some earth shattering news for those people though. When I find the perfect guy for me I will not care whether he has all the right "moves" or knows just what to say! Innocence is a beautiful thing! Do you know what perfection shows? That he has practiced.... I can tell you it wont be on me so that means it would have been on some other girl. Yes, I'm sure my honeymoon will have some awkward moments and to be frankly honest I do not care. We will laugh and move on. In my mind we will be creating memories. Do you get this though girls? The world tells us that we have to be the same way... perfect. If you've never done it before you cant be expected to be perfect. Is your mindset to wait on your husband and practice on him or is it that you have to know what you are doing before you meet him? Can I tell you the right guy will not expect perfection... it will mean the world to him that you waited and therefore you are not quite sure what to do, where to put your hands, or what to say. Ignorance is a beautiful thing!!

You have no idea how many people I've had ask me, "Don't you think it will be hard to go from nothing to everything in one night?". My honest answer is, yes at some points it may be, but PRAISE GOD it wont be so smooth bc we've done almost everything we could before that night. Girls, I'm here to tell you I rather not have a clue be totally innocent than to have "been around" enough that I have no question as to what I should do. Can I get an amen?

Here is my thoughts though... why do we applaud guys (maybe not literally, but emotionally) who say the right things and degrade the ones who aren't quite as smooth? For instance, two guys like you....one is more flirtatious and smooth talking. He says all the right things and just knows exactly what to do. The other one is a little more shy. He is genuine though, but just seems a little awkward at times. The first one has a reputation for trying things on girls though. Which one would you go with? The majority would go with the first one, just for the simple fact he makes us "feel" better. Are we encouraging innocence though? No.... Even though you may never say this just the fact that the more experienced guys get more attention therefore it only takes a guy a few times of getting knocked down before he feels as if his only hope is to become "experienced" himself. Now yes, he does have a choice and yes he can choose to not give into peer pressure, but you and I as his sister in Christ should be encouraging him and pushing him on towards the goal of being like Christ. So if you have a boyfriend by NO means degrade him if he doesn't know what to say exactly or isn't quite sure. That is a beautiful thing!

One day when you get married do you want your husband to be perfect with you because he has practiced with other girls? Practice is what makes a person perfect at something. It's worth thinking about it... Also, think about the fact that every guy you touch, talk to in ways you shouldn't, or allow to "practice" on you will someday be someone Else's husband. Would you want someone else to be doing that with your husband?

Pursuing purity,
JEN

How Far is too Far?

I taught this past Wednesday night to a youth group on sex and how far is too far. I came up with three basic questions to help in deciding how far is too far. Personally I believe that everyone’s standards and limits are different. There is no perfect line that if you cross you have sinned, but if you don’t cross it you are perfectly fine. Wouldn’t it be nice if there was though? Sadly there isn’t so here are just a few questions to ask yourself and if you are honest I believe that you will come up with how far is too far for you!

~ Would you want your future husband to be touched the way you are touching your boyfriend?

~Does it even remotely disturb you that God can see what you are doing alone with your boyfriend?

~When you have to have that hard talk with your future husband about how far you have gone and with how many guys will you regret the decisions you are making now?

Comment and let me know what you think! This is a tough issue and it is something we really want to hit head on. Let me know your thoughts! :)

JEN

Can Guys and Girls Be Friends?

If I could only count how many times I've heard this question or asked it myself. What do you think? Over the last semester or so I've really began to dig into this question and figure it out. Yes, for everyone it is different and every situation is different yet from what I've observed and lived out in my own life I do believe it is possible. I whole heartily believe that it can be awkward at times and get sticky, but it is not impossible. What does the Bible say about it? Honestly it says nothing that I can find although it does talk about how to be a friend. Shouldn't this apply to being friends with guys? I think so.

Here is the real deal... In friendships we have basic rules/guidelines that if you follow these it will make for a good or at least decent friendship. These guidelines are those such as be honest, be caring, do not talk about the person behind their back, be real with them, enjoy and appreciate their friendship, and value them as a person. This is common sense right? Why do we so freak out when it comes to guys? Below is a typical scenario.....

Guy (Bob) and girl (Sally) are friends. They are cool with each other and just like to have fun. No big pressure or anything. They just have alot in common and enjoy each others company. Well one day Bob gets the bright idea in his mind that he might like Sally. She just happens to be looking extra pretty one day and he notices her in a different light. Well sally finds out and it completely freaks her out. How could he like her?! She thought they were just friends. Didn't they discuss this before? So she calls her friend Hannah to get advice on the situation and to see if she can believe that he likes her. Hannah is applaud by the news and advises Sally to just kinda back off. Don't say anything to him bc you might hurt hum, but just don't really hang out with him much and he will get the idea. So sally takes Hannah's advice. She isn't completely rude to him, but it is obvious that their friendship has changed. Along the way Sally doesn't really tell many people or at least unless they ask or mention his name. besides she is still in shock and all weirded out that he even likes her.

So, that may be a tad over dramatic, but if you are honest you know it is to an extent realistic. What is wrong with this picture? First off, Sally needs to keep her everlovin mouth shut. I know it is easier said than done, but girls we are called to be above board and if we were to be completely honest we often times bad mouth guys. How is that honoring Christ? You do not need to go ask someone for advice. You know what you need to do! If you are maybe confused about your feelings than ask someone older and wiser, not your peers. That is gossip. We need to Keep.Our.Mouth.Shut! Secondly, was she ever honest with him about her feelings? No. She took Hannah's advice and just kinda ignored him. What kind of friend is that? Yes, it may hurt for just a second for him to hear that you do not feel the same way back, but goodness do you not think that it would hurt just as bad if not worse for you to ignore him and act all weird around him? He will figure it out eventually and by then he will just have been hurt more. Be a woman of integrity and have the guts to have a honest open conversation. Of course be nice when breaking the news to him. Do not avoid the situation though. For lack of better words that is being a coward. Do not do it through txt or email (Unless he told you that way). Once again, have integrity and face him. Next, why are we so surprised when a guy likes us? Last semester I honestly dealt with this alot. My roommate and I were constantly saying "Why does he like me?!" when here is the reality... You are a Godly, sweet, beautiful woman. He obviously from the beginning has seen something in you that he liked or he would not have wanted to be your friend. So why are you so surprised? I do not know you personally, but I am sure there is no reason for a guy not to like you. Quit being so shocked and surprised! Of course do not get a big head or none of the guys will like you, but a little reality never hurt anyone! A guy would be lucky to have you!

With all that said it is normal for there to be times in friendships where one or the other likes the other one. It is really not as big as we make it. We over exaggerate and then it causes everything to be awkward which then makes the friendship rocky. Just be real. He is not a freak for liking you.... so why do we treat them as such?

Being Real!

JEN

Death... Where is your sting?

Hey girls! SO sorry for the lapse in posting! It has been quite a while since I really posted. As I mentioned in my previous post about my life I mentioned that my grandfather died and since then I've been wanting to post about death, but I just haven’t found the right words. Hopefully I will today! :)

If you have ever lost someone you loved you know the feelings. It’s kind of gut wrenching. Some people respond by crying and others hold it in and never let it show. Does it hurt everyone though? Yes, no matter how they show it. My grandfather was an amazing man. If you had been at his funeral you would have known it. For about two hours the line was out the back of the funeral home. The kind words of his former pastors were oh so true. As people came through the line they would tell me of how some time or another my grandfather had helped them. After all of this a truth began to roll through my thoughts... At the end of my life what will people say at my funeral? Not in a vain way of I hope they think I'm a great person, but in the way of I hope I've touched as many lives as he did. On a tomb stone you have the age the person was born and then a dash (-) and then the day they died. That small little dash represents a whole life. When I am no longer living what will that dash represent? At my funeral the people there will represent the life that I lived. Strangers do not come to a funeral. People who you in some small way impacted their life comes. More than even that I truly believe that in Heaven you will see all the kids you ever taught that accepted Christ, the people you met in that far away country on a mission trip, the sick that you prayed for even though you did not know them, and many more who you did not even know you impacted. It is not about what you did although your life does matter. Yes, my grandfather lived many wonderful years. He packed his years full of life, work, and fun. What happens if you do not get the chance to live as long as he did? Is your life still worth something? Do NOT wait until you are older to begin living. NOW is the time. We are not promised tomorrow..... With that said, if you were to die today where would you spend eternity? I've talked in this post as if I assume you will go to Heaven, but I have no way of knowing that. Only you and God know that. In John 14:6 Jesus says, "I am the way, the truth, and the life... No man comes to the father, but by me." Knowing Jesus personally is the ONLY way a person will get to Heaven. Do you know Him? Oh I’m sure you have heard talk about Him and probably talked about Him some yourself, but when it comes down to that final day will you know without a doubt that you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ? Acts 16:31 states that if you believe on the Lord Jesus Christ you WILL be saved. Do you have this confidence? I can tell you this.... As we stood around my dying grandfather’s bed yes some of us were crying and it was hard to watch him lay there, but we had a peace. We knew as soon as he took his last breath here he would enter into eternal Heaven! Oh what a wonderful thought that is. As much as I love my life I kind of wanted to go with him! Yes, we miss him and will until we get to Heaven, but there is a comfort and peace knowing that we will see him again someday. Do you have that peace?

You can have it today.... There is no special prayer or thing you have to do. You just have to be real with God and tell Him that you have messed up and that you have done wrong things. That on your own power you cannot get to Heaven. Share that you believe in Him and that you believe He is who He says He is and that you believe he died on the cross for you, but did not stay dead. These are powerful truths that you must believe whole heartedly. With all that said just simply tell Him that you love Him and that you want to spend the rest of eternity with Him. You want your dash in life to be worth something!

I have no idea who reads this blog and I especially have no idea how you stand with God. I do know that I'm praying for you though... I pray that if you have not believed in Jesus that you will today because as I stated earlier we are not promised next breath, let alone tomorrow!

Love,

JEN