Friday, April 20, 2012

Dating=Loss of Purity... Not true!


How can you date and continue to stay pure? I have been asked this a couple of times lately and I believe this is a very valid question. We often hear of waiting as not having a boyfriend, but is this the only way that you can be pure? I personally do not think so. Seeing that the bible doesn’t talk about dating we just have to do the best and follow what we feel like is God’s plan the best that we can. So with that said, yes I do have a boyfriend (Who is pretty stinkin amazing I might add!). So what are some practical ways to stay pure? Be open with your parents. Matt and I both do not live at home. We live on campus, but we still invite our parents to be a vital part of our lives. My parents know matt very well and see him almost a couple of times a week. I do not know his parents quite as well, but that is just because his parents live further away. Anyway though, allow your parents to be a part of your relationship. No matter your age. SET STANDARDS! I can promise you one thing… It is easier said than done. Do it though. Are you willing to kiss, make out, etc? Where are you willing to touch each other? What are you willing to say to each other? Do not overlook an area because I can promise you that will be one of the first areas that you will be tempted. Only date those that you can possibly see yourself marrying. Dating is not a joke. So many people take dating as almost a hobby. I completely disagree. Yes, Ive dated different guys that I will not marry, but I did not know that in the beginning. As soon as I figured it out I broke up with them. I challenge you to do the same. If you are dating someone that you would not want to have a son just like then you should break up with them immediately. A few questions to consider with your relationship is “Would I want someone touching my future husband the way I’m touching my boyfriend?”, “ will I one day regret having to tell my children what I did before marriage?” “Do I find it disturbing that God can see everything I am doing?”. If any of the answers bother you may need to reconsider your relationship. More than anything… keep God the center of your relationship. Keep your boyfriend in mind as someone that you have to present before God as Holy. He is to do the same for you.

I hope this helps! Please know that I am praying for you as you fight this tough battle!
JEN

3 comments:

Kyla Makay said...

THANK YOU!
Good grief... some of our "fellow" bloggers swear I am a heathen because I date. WHAT?
It's nice to see some other girls who are really living up to the standards of God in their relationships... and who doesn't condemn dating.
:)
Ky
www.thebirdssay.blogspot.com

Shelley said...

I've never dated before, but I do agree with what you said about how it's still possible to stay pure while dating. Great post! :)

Marie Danielle said...

I too agree that you can remain pure while dating! :-) And to contradict people who are only pro-"courtship" that doesn't always ensure a pure relationship either!! :-) Great post! As always I enjoy this blog a lot. :-)