Wednesday, October 28, 2009

He Could Be Alright...

Hey Chickas!

Tonight I wanted to talk to you about standards other than just purity. Cuz you can have purity standards and fight to uphold them, but if you're going for the wrong guys it'll be a hard fought battle- harder than it has to be. I know that several of my friends and I have a list for what we want in a future husband. I HIGHLY encourage you to make one of these lists. Don't just brainstorm what you want, WRITE IT DOWN. Develop a well thought out list (not just "needs to be cute"), write it down, and keep it somewhere safe. You are probably asking "what's the point of the list?" Well first of all it lets you evaluate what you really want to spend the rest of your life with. Second of all, the list isn't just a guide for your future husband, it's a guide for all your boyfriends. Let's be honest, if you wouldn't spend the rest of your life with him, what's the point of keeping him around? By getting into a relationship with a guy who doesn't make the cut, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Having a list written down is more beneficial than you think. It comes in handy to have something to look at when you are trying figure out if he could be alright. Sometimes we forget what we really want when a cute guy pays attention to us. So next time a guy starts flirting with you, don't be afraid to go home and put him up to the test. Who knows, "he could be alright." ;)

Something to remember when you make the list, the Bible specifically warns against being "unequally yoked" (2 Corinthians 6:14). Now if you're like I was not too long ago, you're probably thinking something along the lines of "what on earth does it mean to be unequally yoked?" lol. Have no fear, I will explain. Mental picture, two oxen are hooked up to plow a field, what keeps them together? A yoke. In our lovely mental picture, the yoke symbolizes the bond of marraige. Now the ox on the left (you) is strong in it's faith and constantly trying to pull towards God and do his will. The ox on the right (your husband) is not into "religion" as he calls it and thinks Sundays were meant for football and nothing else. The ox on the left is constantly pulling one way, and the ox on the right is pulling the other way, and in turn, they go NOWHERE. Not a pretty picture huh? Well you may being saying "well it's not like I'm gonna date a non-christian." Let's put a twist in here, both oxen are believers. But the left ox is a baptist, and the right ox is a catholic. They are eventually gonna end up the same way as the oxen from our first scenario. Do you get what I'm saying? You want to have the same basic belief system as your future husband. And that includes purity. You are not gonna want to spent your entire dating relationship fighting to keep from going too far. I encourage you to keep that in mind as you make your lists.

Until next time, Kat

Uncommon- Greg Long and Kristy Starling

Following up on the quote I posted from Robert Frost. A friend mentioned a song that I absolutely love and I wanted to share it with you guys. Below are the lyrics and a link to a video on youtube. Enjoy!

-Kat

What if there's something bigger for me out there
Than the comfort of a life on this middle ground
I've played it safe but now I can't help but wonder
If maybe I've been missing out

'Cause I look around and see a sea of people
Everybody's moving in the same direction
And I think it's time for me to break away, break away

Chorus

I want to finally take the road less traveled
I want to run away from anything typical
I want the world to see the life I'm living
And call it uncommon

What if the right thing was harder than the wrong thing
But I did it anyway
Standing strong even when no one else was watching
What if I really lived that way

Every heart has its defining moment
This is mine and I'm not gonna miss it

I want to finally take the road less traveled
I want to run away from anything typical
I want the world to see the life I'm living
And call it uncommon

I don't care if it makes me look different
I'm never letting go of my conviction
Let the world see the life I'm living
And call it uncommon

I'm done with the easy way out
I'm done with the easy way out
Done with the easy way out
With the easy way out

What if I made it to the end of my days here
Only to find that my legacy was nowhere to be found
I don't want to waste another second
Give me the strength to start right now
Right now, right now, right now, right now, right now, right now

I take the road less traveled
I want to run away from anything typical
I want the world to see the life I'm living
And call it uncommon

I don't care if it makes me look different
I'm never letting go of my conviction
Let the world see the life I'm living
And call it uncommon

Uncommon
Call it uncommon
I'm done with the easy way out

Check out the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B4zZ3_nveqs

Monday, October 26, 2009

What we stand for!

Hey girls! I just wanted to give you an idea of the things we stand for... This isn't just a, "wait for sex until marriage" deal. We want to encourage you girls to pursue God with your everything and with that our sexual desires will seem to fade until it is God's timing, hence the name of the group! Of course we stand for abstinence, but we also stand for purity of mind and heart. As girls it is SO easy to give away our heart and body because we think that he, "loves" us. Often girls give parts of themselves away without even the promise of it turning into a dating relationship, but we stand for waiting just a little while... It is between you and God as far as how far you go before you are married, but hopefully through this blog you will be able to see purity in a totally new light! Not as a chore or something your parents and youth minister have shoved down your throat, but something that you want to do and are proud of! The limit we are going to go by basically is that you shouldn't do anything that you wouldn't feel comfortable doing with Jesus sitting beside you. We all know that He is there with you if you have asked Him into your heart... So just think about that! It can be kind of disturbing...

Also, I wanted to add that if you have ANY questions or things that you would like to discuss, but maybe do not want to post it as a comment feel free to message either one of us or you can e-mail us!

Kathryn- kreed1193@bellsouth.net
Jennifer- jennifer.rochester@charter.net

Love you girls!!

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Let's start at the beginning...

Hey peeps! Okay, so Jen kinda introduced me already, but allow me to tell you a little bit more about myself. Okay so the beginning- my name. My name is Kathryn, but people call me Kat a lot. Feel free to use either, I answer to everything from "hey you" to "Katarina." lol. My story, well I'm a teenager who fell in love with the Lord and just wants to live for him. I've had my share of middle school drama, high school drama, and everything in between. I learn a lot by observation. Throughout my middle school and high school careers I have noticed two things. 1) Girls just want to be loved and accepted. 2) They tend to look for that love and acceptance in guys. My heart has been burdened for quite sometime that we girls become a bit obsessed with being loved and accepted, so much so that we will do almost anything (such as compromising our morals) to get that from a guy. I, like Jen, have vision for this blog to encourage girls to keep their standards high and hold tight to our morals. I hope that we create a haven here for girls who are tired of looking at guy after guy, and all them end up disappointing. When you feel like there is no one out there trying to hold tight to purity standards, I hope you think of us. Our blog idea came to us tonight as we had one of our typical conversations about guys. We started out talking about our guy problems and are wish to "just find a good guy." We moved on to talking about other girls and how we see them wanting to press for higher standards, but they are either too scared to pursue that or they don't think they can. We both started talking about making a difference, and helping each other. We started brainstorming and voila! We're starting a blog. You see, we're going through the same things you are. We're not some adult who's "been through it already and knows the best decision to make for every guy situation." We're just two teenage girls, earnestly following Christ, and figuring out our guy problems as we go. I think I can safely say that this idea we developed tonight is much more than just a blog, it's a support system. This is just one way we can unite the body of Christ! As I close up my very first blog post, I would like to leave you with a thought about purity. Robert Frost once said "Two roads diverged in a wood, and I- I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference." What if we were to apply this to purity. Not many people take the high-purity-standard-road these days. What if we were take the road less traveled, and make the difference for Christ? Would that not be worthy of our time and patient waiting?

Love In Christ,
Kat

God is working...

Hey guys! So, I have a wonderful friend named Kathryn Reed! She and I both have a passion for purity and would like to share that with other young women! It is a work in pregress... but if you have any ideas feel free to let us know! I've had a burden for teen girls the past couple of years, but the closer i come to gradutating I realize that I'm about to graduate... I want to leave a legacy behind! Hopefully this blog can touch someone! :) Kathryn will write something later about her ideas and thoughts on this blog!

In Christ,
JEN ~ 1 Timothy 4:12 ~