Wednesday, August 31, 2011

The Importance of "First"

What are some important "First" experiences? First hair cut, first day of school, first time to ride a bike, first time to drive, first date, first kiss, etc. Why is it that mothers save their baby's hair from their first hair cut, take multitudes of pictures on the first day of school, dream of the day they can drive, but dating and kisses aren't as big of a deal. In some families it is and in others its not. Many girls when i ask about their first date they can barely even remember it. Why is this? First kisses are often remembered, but not nearly treasured enough. So, if you have already given away your "First" God is definitely a God of second chances! If you've never had a "First" then praise God! YOU can still savor your first time experiences. How can you do this? First things first... Don't just give them away at the drop of a hat! I often hear girls saying, "It's just a date..." it may "Just be a date", but one day you will regret those meaningless and pointless dates with guys that you knew was not the "one", but you went anyway just because you wanted to go on a date. Now yes, going on a date with the wrong guy is not the end of the world, but i often ask, why do it? I mean yes it is fun to date and many girls feel as if they "need" a guy, but the truth is that is not a God honoring attitude. So why do it? Then as far as kissing... It is just a kiss. Can i just say loud and clear... GAG ME! This is something that is worth so much and girls just toss it around like it is nothing. Girls, your kisses are yours and yours only. No guy has the right to take them and therefore you have the right to choose when, where, and to whom you give them away. Many girls express that they feel when they go on a date and the guy buys the food that they feel as if they "owe" him a kiss. I would hate to know what they feel they owe him if he bought them flowers! Do you get my point? This is not Biblical. The Bible straight up says, "DO not awaken love until it's appointed time". Kissing may not make you want to have sex, but it is without a doubt "Awakening" love. Girls, your first date and your first kiss is valuable... There is no specific time that the Bible says its ok to kiss or go further. It just simply says to honor God. The question is often asked then when is it appropriate to kiss a guy or let a guy kiss you. There is no easy answer for that... For each person it is different. It is between you and God. I personally plan to save my first kiss for my wedding day. Some girls say that's crazy and they do not feel God calling them to that at all. That is perfectly fine! At the same time many girls feel called to this, but feel so alone and think no one else in the world is trying to wait. For you girls who feel that way... You are not alone!I want to encourage you to stick to your standards that you feel are what God wants and do not back down! If a guy ever tells you that God is not leading him the same way then that means he is not the one. Precious sisters in Christ... Do. Not. Back. Down. I believe it will be completely worth it one day!

Praying for you as you fight this battle...
JEN

6 comments:

Mikailah said...

The first is very important. I have promised the Lord that my first kiss will be for my husband on my wedding day. Thank you for sharing this, Jen. :)

Blessings in Christ,
Mikailah

Mikailah said...

The first is very important. I have promised the Lord that my first kiss will be for my husband on my wedding day. Thank you for sharing this, Jen. :)

Blessings in Christ,
Mikailah

Callie Nicole said...

I agree that it's important to guard those firsts so they can be special too! But I do want to say that most girls don't necessarily go on a date with the wrong guy just because they want to date. In my family, if we went out on a date, it was to see if whoever asked us could potentially be the RIGHT guy! And when it became clear that they weren't, we wouldn't go out again. So the first date might not have been with the right guy, but it wasn't because of any ungodly attitude or standards.

Shelley said...

I also believe that firsts are important. Because of course you'll have a second and third, but it's not as memorable. I have not had a first kiss, or date yet, but I hope them do be with someone special! :)

Ashley said...

I agree with every word from Callie Nicole

Still Smiling said...

I totally agree! I always am asking God to help me save my first kiss for marriage, because the world mocks anything that is out of the normal, and it hurts sometimes! Thank you for the encouraging post! :)