Real or fake purity?

Before I get started on my hearts passion tonight I want to let you know that I'm posting a little early due to the fact that I'm working all day tomorrow and I couldnt go to sleep because God was working so hard on me about this. I just had to share! :)

Here's the truth... we all know how to look good, say the right things and act oh so Holy. The question is... how deep does that "Holiness" go? Of course we are all sinners and of course no one except Christ is perfect, but are you really who you say you are?


Here's a few questions to help you see how real you are...


*Whats your thought life like?

*What do you look at on the internet when you are home alone?

*What do you txt to guys?

*While laying in bed what do you think about?

*What music do you listen to?

*What movies do you watch when you are alone?

Chicks, here's the deal... you can act as if you are totally pure, yet if when you are alone your life proves different than who you say you are then you are living a straight up lie. Truth hurts...eh?

I often struggle with this myself. Just being straight up honest with you... Who doesn't like a hot romance scene in a movie? The bad part is there is at least one in just about every movie.

James says a few things about being real...

James 1:26-27 If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless. Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

(I believe this verse also applies to our thoughts, not only our words.)
James 4:4 You adulterous people, don't you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.

James 4:17 Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sins.
(Do you know that you shouldn't be watching that movie or listening to that music?)


Girls, one of the biggest things that non Christian have against the church today is that there are so many hypocrites in the church. Are you one of them? *taking mask down* I was... For the longest time I had everyone fooled. I could talk the talk and knew how far I was willing to go physically before I was married, yet I had allowed satan to come in other ways. It took God literally knocking me off of the pedistal that I had put myself on to realize, "Hey, maybe there is more to this than just not having sex until you are married or even just touching a guy...". Trust me.... been there and done that! If i could do anything to save you from that I would. I remember a lady that I highly admire once told me, " Faking purity is like a guy and girl seeing each other naked yet not having sex". You may not be near that far, but when you look at it like that it makes more sense. Atleast it did for me! See, since the couple dadnt actually have "sex" then they still see themselves as pure. They are so far from it though...



1 Corinthians 6:18 says to FLEE sexual immorality!! Does flee mean hang around, but just try to not get to close? Not at all!! RUN!!! If you get anything at all from this blog please realize that purity is not just not having sex.... Purity is all about Loving God and loving Him more than anything else!



I pray for each one of you girls that you seek a level of purity that is umcomprhendable to the world! That you would live your life in such a way that there is no question who you love...they will know that you love God more than anything!!



With earnest care,

JEN



P.S. As normal.... WE CARE ABOUT YOU! If there is anything that we can be praying for you about please let us know. If there is anything that you are going through or would just like to talk about please let us know! We always love being here for you girls! Its our passion! =)

Thought Filled Thursday!

So I don't know why, but God placed this song on my heart today when I was thinking of a thought to put out there for y'all. Maybe you are this girl, or maybe you've seen this girl. The question is, what are you gonna do about it?

Does Anybody Hear Her- Casting Crowns

She is running
A hundred miles an hour in the wrong direction
She is trying
But the canyon's ever widening
In the depths of her cold heart
So she sets out on another misadventure just to find
She's another two years older
And she's three more steps behind

Does anybody hear her?
Can anybody see?
Or does anybody even knows she's going down today
Under the shadow of our steeple
With all the lost and lonely people
Searching for the hope that's tucked away in you and me
Does anybody hear her?
Can anybody see?

She is yearning
For shelter and affection
That she never found at home
She is searching
For a hero to ride in
To ride in and save the day
And in walks her prince charming
And he knows just what to say
Momentary lapse of reason
And she gives herself away

*CHORUS*

If judgement looms under every steeple
If lofty glances from lofty people
Can't see past her scarlet letter
And we never even met her

*CHORUS*

He is running
A hundred miles an hour in the wrong direction

Word-Filled Wednesday!

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 "A Time For Everything"


1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

A Little Challenge...

Okay girls, so I will be honest, I don't have a real topic to post about tonight. But something I've been learning lately is how powerful encouragement and accountability are in our daily lives. So I wanted to encourage you a little, and challenge you at the same time. So tonight I want you to read the following questions, and be honest with yourself in answering them. Are you really making the commitment to purity, or are you still standing on the sidelines?

1) Have I drawn a line in the sand? Have I said to myself "I will not 'go' any further than this?"

2) Have I asked myself what I'm looking for in future husband? Have a made a point to say "I will/will not date a certain kind of guy?"

3) Am I putting modesty into practice? Am I showing respect to myself and others in the way I dress?

These are just a few things we've talked about before, and I want you to ask yourself, are you putting it into practice? I want to encourage you girls, don't put it off until tomorrow to commit to purity, start today! I can guarantee you are not alone! Jen and I are right there with you, and I'm sure many other girls can say that too! Girls, we were never told this would be easy, but we were told this would be worth it. Don't ever forget that! Remember girls, God is with you every step of the way, and he has the absolute best in mind for YOU! I urge you to embark of the wonderful journey of purity, you'll be rewarded. :)

Love, Kat

Where did our fairy tale dreams go??

Right down the drain just to be honest… I keep three year olds a couple times a week and it amazes me to see how big of an imagination they have and how easily they play Prince and Princess. Then within a couple of years (soon after puberty) they will barely even be able to remember their dreams. They will seem impossible and unrealistic. Why is that? It is because in our world women are taught that guys are jerks. They do not know how to respect or love us and that if we want anything in life we have to get it all on our own and in our own power. Is that the way God created it though? I do not believe it is at all… We’ve discussed this some, but what are the roles of the man and woman in the relationship? The man is to love his wife as God loved the church and the woman is to her husband. If we each did these things do you think life would be more like a fairy tell? I believe it would! Life can never be perfect, yet if we lived our lives the way God planned on us doing it would be a whole lot closer to a true fairy tale.



Ephesians 5:22-33 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.



So, what can we do about it? Can we push guys to show true love? What can we do? The truth is we can not change others… we can only change ourselves and the way we treat others. Bummer huh? I think we often miss the fact that if we were to treat guys with respect they might actually do the same thing to us! I remember watching a movie a while back and in the movie a dad didn’t respect his son at all. The son treated his dad the same way though. When someone confronted the son about it he wanted to blame his dad, but the person told him, “How can you judge your dad by his actions yet judge yourself by your intentions?” . The same goes for the way we treat guys… I do totally believe that there are guys that are “jerks”, “players”, or whatever you want to call them, yet I also believe that they are many good guys that we degrade when we classify all guys as bad. Does that make sense? With all that said, what can WE (You and I as girls!) do to change it? We’ve all heard the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”. If we begin treating guys with respect I promise you they would begin doing the same to us… Do you know how our world would turn upside down if that actually began happening?? Of course not every guy will, but the ones who are worth having around will! It kills me how often women want to throw up the fact that their husbands are to love them as God loves the church, yet then they do not submit to their husbands, which is just as much God’s will as for the husband to love his wife! Before I go on though I want to give you some examples of what I mean… We’ve already discussed belittling guys by calling them names, but also just talking about them behind there back. It hurts them just as much as it hurts us to have someone talking about us behind our back. Making low remarks or degrading their attempts to be sweet. Even if it seems to be a sorry attempt, at least they are trying. Also in the clothes you wear… If you do not want a guy to look at you in a lustful way then please do not advertise yourself in such a way to make him want to! I realize that guys are guys and they are going to be drawn to women, but if you could realize how much easier it would be for a guy to respect you and treat you with honor if you dressed different I believe you would be getting rid of any clothes you own that might cause them to stumble. I feel like I’m rambling… but this is something that really means a lot to me. If we cant respect our guy friends or bf at this point then what on earth makes us think that all of the sudden we will be great at it once we get married?



With all that said I want to add one more thing… If the guys in your life are not worth respecting… please for your sake move on and find other guys. If the guys you hang around whether it be just friends or actual boyfriends curse around you often, hit you, or often push you to be physical it is about time to start looking for new friends! It wont be easy, but if you care to ever get back the fairy tale dream you use to have it is a must to get rid of those guys.



I love you girls and I want you to have the Fairy tale that you always dreamed of! :)
JEN

Thought Filled Thursday!

This is my new favorite song!! You guys can share any of your favorite songs!! =)

In Christ alone my hope is found.


He is my light, my strength, my song.

This Cornerstone, this solid ground,

Firm through the fiercest drought and storm.

What heights of love, what depths of peace;

When fears are stilled, when strivings cease;

My Comforter, my All in All,

Here in the love of Christ I stand.



In Christ alone, who took on flesh,

Fullness of God in helpless babe.

This gift of love and righteousness,

Scorned by the ones He came to save.

‘Til on that cross as Jesus died,

The wrath of God was satisfied.

For every sin on Him was laid,

Here in the death of Christ I live.



There in the ground His body lay.

Light of the world by darkness slain.

Then bursting forth in glorious Day,

Up from the grave He rose again.

And as He stands in victory,

Sin’s curse has lost its grip on me.

For I am His and He is mine

Bought with the precious blood of Christ.



On Christ the solid Rock I stand.

All other ground is sinking sand.

All other ground is sinking sand.



On Christ the solid Rock I stand.

All other ground is sinking sand.

All other ground is sinking sand.



No guilt in life, no fear in death,

This is the power of Christ in me.

From life’s first cry to final breath,

Jesus commands my destiny.

No power of hell, no scheme of man,

Can ever pluck me from His hand.

‘Til He returns or calls me home,

Here in the power of Christ I’ll stand.

Word Filled Wednesday!