Saturday, September 24, 2011

What do guys REALLY want?

Lets be honest girls... we all want a guy. It's that simple. We love God and we want God to guide our relationships, but that also means we want a guy. Is that a bad thing? I think not! God created us to be this way! It's truly a beautiful thing! So, my question is... what do guys really want in a girl? Does he want her to be totally hot, "experienced", and always ready for a party? Some guys may, but from what I've observed the type of guy I'm hoping you would want and the type of guy I would like to have doesn't quite find that so attractive. Follow me here.... Last week in youth our youth minister was talking about purity and he asked the guys (Keep in mind these are just typical teen guys... not some oh Holy ones. just normal guys.) how many of them wanted a girl who had never been "around". I was astonished by the response! Only two out of about thirty guys did not raise their hands. Does this seem right? Honestly... it doesn't. The way it often looks is that the guys are all over the girls who do not value themselves and will give anything. In reality though yes guys may give those girls attention, but when you talk marriage and settling down they want the girl who has waited. Now, I will go ahead and say.... God and i have talked about this alot lately. I have a hard time feeling that it's fair. As my daddy always told me growing up though, "Life isn't always fair.". Why am I saying all this? To open your eyes to the fact that what you see isn't always what is truly happening.

Another thing that guys want... this is just purely from observation and reading many books (including the Bible!). Guys want a woman who wants (Notice.... not just will, but wants to!) to follow God's plan for women. When i say this I do not mean to start a debate on women's rights. I simply mean God has placed inside a man a want to be the leader of the home and at the same time the desire to treat his wife as if she is a princess. It is not that he thinks he is any better than her, but simply he wants to protect her and guide her. I personally believe that we as girls have this pride about us that we think we do not need a mans help or his guidance. This may be true.... women can do anything that men can do, although i challenge you to think... is that the way God created it to be? Yes, it is possible for women to be the same as men, but does that mean it is the best way to do it? I strongly believe it isn't. The other night some of us were sitting outside the dorms and one of the guys made a comment about how he would love to see his wife over the stove with a baby on her hip, My first response was to be offended. Shouldn't i have been? Not at all. He didn't mean it as if he wanted his wife to be his slave or anything of the sort. he was simply saying how to him and other guys for that matter it is simply beautiful to see a woman taking care of her family and holding a child. Was he saying he would never cook or hold the child? No! He didn't say that and he didn't mean that either. He was just stating a fact that he found that attractive. So, I say to you.... Enjoy your femininity! Guys do! Why shouldn't we? Learn to enjoy cooking, cleaning, caring for children, and serving your dad! It isn't a bad thing. Honestly, i find it comforting.... there is comfort in knowing that my dad has my best interest at heart and that he is watching out for me. It will be the same way when i have a husband!

JEN

7 comments:

Sierra said...

Awww!!!!!! I love this post! Especially the end. I do sometimes have trouble with some comments like that. When you hear it the way you said it though...it sounds sweet :) I hope I can keep that picture as a reminder when I feel slightly mad about something like that. And I honestly love babies. And little kids. A baby just fits right into your side you know? I think that is awesome about how many guys raised their hands too. Thanks so much for the encouragement Jen! Sierra
Keep Growing Beautiful♥ (Cause You Are!)

Emilie said...

Love this! :)

Amber Smith said...

i'm loving keeping up with this blog jen ;) and i love you!

Ashley said...

Oh wow that was a good post!! It's so true ya know? So many mom's that have come home to homeschool and be stay at home moms are training their daughters to leave, to have careers, etc!! It's so sad!
I have always loved the thought of being a wife and mother, it's the biggest dream I have AND I would rather not work but I will be willing to do what it takes...Most guys think that it is really awesome...and really who wouldn't? A home cooked meal every night, happy kids waiting to see daddy? What a beautiful thing. Thanks for the encouragment!

Grace said...

This is truly the best post I have ever read! <3
I agree with everything you said and I was quite surprised about those boys.. I'm happy about what they said :)

Karissa Noelle said...

Thanks for the comment you left on my blog! I definitely need to start blogging more. Thanks for the reminder, and it was good to know someone actually missed it! :)
Have a great day!

In Christ,
Karissa
Jeremiah 29:11-13

Katherine said...

Wonderful post, as always! :D Thank you so much for your comment, it means so much to me. I'm coming back to blogging now, and your comment certainly helped with that decision. Blessings and keep up the lovely work,
Katherine