Friday, April 9, 2010

Why should we get married?

So this will be more like a series and continue over a few weeks. There are a few reasons that I've come up with that God says we should get married for and then there are some reasons that the world tells us that God's word disagrees with! Tonights reason would be the one that the world tells us.... "Because you are in love!"!

First off, the world tells us to get married because we are, “In love”. Is there such a thing as, “In love”? When I first began thinking about this my first response was, Of course! I mean I’ve heard it so many times and it seems to work. Well, some of the time... Did you know that 50% of the average married population is divorced. That doesn’t seem like it is working all that great…. Then I began thinking… if you are, “In love” then how easy is it to get, “Out of love”. Get where I’m going? We each want to feel loved and have all of those great feelings running through us, yet how long will those last? The Bible says that beauty is fleeting. That means that it goes away! Will a man who married a woman just for her looks fall “Out of love” as soon as she begins looking a little less attractive than she did when he married her? By the world’s standards of love he will… What about the girls. She marries a man who makes her feel safe, can hold her tight, will listen to her for hours on end, but then he becomes ill. I’m not talking about once he is 80 or older. What if he becomes ill at age 30. How easy would it be for her to, “Fall out” of love? Again, by the world’s standards very easy… We’ve all have heard the verse, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all thing, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7″. That is God’s view of love guys. We pick and choose which of these we do. We do all of them at different times, yet there are still those few that in the back of our mind when things come up that we need to use them we say, “Well God knows I’m not perfect and this just isn’t my strong place. It will be ok.”. That is if we actually take the time to think about it. God never once said just obey the ones that are easy…. He said show love and then he wrote out as plain as day what true love was! Back to our discussion of dating though… Are you looking to, “Fall in love” and then get married? I propose to you that you seek the face of God and find out what true love is all about and then once you have just a glimpse of it (I honestly believe that we can not fully comprehend the love of God!) see who God leads you to. Yes, there does need to be some physical attraction and an emotional connection, but if you allow God to lead you to the correct person not only will there be those things…there will be SO much more!!


I want to leave you with a quote and I can’t remember who said it, but it is so true!

“God never once said marry who you love, but He said over and over to love who you married!” ~ Anonymous

Just following Him,
JEN

2 comments:

Katherine said...

Great post, again! Such points!

Simply Blessed said...

What a great post!