Friday, April 22, 2011

Legit ways to guard your heart!

How many times have you heard, "Guard your heart!"? Probably more than you can count. I know I have. I also know that I say it often. Here is the thing though... How do you really and truly guard your heart? Is it even possible? I believe it is! What makes you get all jittery? What makes you want to give everything to a man? Is it when he says, "I love you", when he tells you that you are beautiful, when he first kisses you, when he holds you? When is it? For each girl it is different. The thing is though it is not popular to guard your heart... it is unheard of. It is one of those things that girls talk about like it would be nice to do, but it is hardly ever done. Back to the point though, how can you do it? First of all you have to stop before that point that makes you want to give your all. I know.... it doesn’t sound like fun, but in the long run it will make life so much more fun! What is that point for you? Some girls it's saying I love you, some it is kissing, some it is making out, and for some it is even as simple as hand holding. Only you know. For instance yours is kissing. If kissing makes you want to do more then don't kiss him! I've honestly had girls tell me that kissing does nothing to them then that's fine. You have to be honest with yourself. I've mentioned saying, "I love you" a couple of times, but this really is a big deal. The world treats it as if it is nothing, but God treats it as if it is everything. I see teens put of their face-book status how they "love" someone soooooo much! They will love them forever and then the next week they are telling someone one else how much they love them. Is this true love? NO! We as girls believe it though and each time we believe it we are taking down our guard around our hearts. Once again, I know it is not popular, but I HIGHLY recommend waiting until you have been dating a while and if at all possible until you are close to engagement to tell the person you love them. I know it’s not normal....did God call us to be normal though? Another way to guard your heart is by being open with your parents... Sometimes that isn’t fun, but without a doubt it helps. Your parents will be able to see the big picture better than you will. You may think this guy truly loves you, has your best interest at heart, and all kind of other things when your parents can see that it is not that way at all. Be open... be real. Let them know who you are dating or even talking to.

Sweet girls, I've done it both ways.... I've not guarded my heart and I have guarded my heart. I can tell you it is possible and it is worth it! I've told a guy I loved him within the first week and I've also dated a guy for almost a year and never once told him I loved him. Would you like to guess which one left me with a broken heart? As my mother would say....."Take three guesses and the first two don't count!" (If you do not get that I bet you money you are not from the south! :))! Girls, it is possible and it is worth it!

One more way to think about it... Is your heart really yours to give away or does it belong to your future spouse? I was listening to a video by Eric Ludy talking about purity and he discussed this topic. He made the statement that in all reality it is not our heart to give away. It belongs to our future spouse. So when we give it away we are giving it to someone who does not deserve it and at the same time we are taking their heart from their future spouse. Does that seem right? Turning it into something positive though.... think ahead to your future husband. How would you feel if you were the only one he had ever told he loved, kissed, or anything like that? Wouldn’t that be amazing? I’m sure he would feel the same about you.... Now is the time to make that possible!



Amy @ dwell in the season said...

Thanks for your comment on my blog! This is a great post, and YES, it is worth it and possible to guard your heart for your future spouse! My husband and I did, and never regretted it. Cute blog:)

Renee said...

Great advice! It is so worth it to guard our hearts and trust God to bring the right person for each of us. I've heard countless stories from people who did this and they never regret it! Instead of seeing how much we can get away with, its best to set our standards high. Then we will have nothing to be ashamed of and we'll be so glad we did! We can all have a beautiful story if we trust God to write it for us. :) Thanks for encouraging girls to keep their hearts pure! :)

Marjo B said...

I totally agree with keeping ourselves pure for our future spouse! Norm Wakefield talked at our conference a couple years ago on ''Teens''...One thing he mentioned was for us girls to view all boys/young men we meet as the future husbands of our sisters in Christ, and surely we wouldn't want to rob our sisters by trying to attract their future husbands to us just ''for fun''! Make sense? It was a good thought for me!

Marjo B said...

Jennifer- you left a comment on my blog asking how our friend, Mrs. Laura Kee and her baby are doing now! Thanks for asking- It is wonderful to think you are still praying for them! I actually meant to do a blog post about the family, but couldn't find good pictures of them...when I DO get pictures of the baby and mother, I'll email them to you!
The baby was able to go home about a month (?) ago, and is growing, praise the Lord!
The mother now has gallstones on top of everything she already went through, so continue praying for her! I can't imagine having to go through all that...
They are such a dear joyful Christian family.

Bailey said...

Thanks for writing! This topic is so rare in our day, and something that needs to be shared. And even when one has heard about it many times, it's so good to be reminded!

Emily said...

This is great. Guarding your heart is so so important, can't stress that enough along side you!

Being able to know you gave your heart to 1 man and that man being your husband frees you up from any regrets or issues that can arise if you had been more free with it before him.
Preach it sister! ;)

Sierra said...

That is my dream to have that special first time experience.It'll be the best in the world.I'm kinda unsure how I'm supposed to guard my heart.I want to, but I'm not sure.Does it just em keeping to your guidelines and not falling to fast?Or is it something else too.Lovely post.Sierra

Sierra said...

Marjo B:I love that!No one would ever steal their friend's crush and that is the same concept!I love it!

Meggie said...

Good on you Jen! Thanks for all the encouragent!


Love Unawakened said...

Sierra- there are many ways you can guard your heart, but yes that is one way! Also, just simply loving God more than you do the idea of a boyfriend or even a husband! Praying for you as you pursue guarding your heart!