Sooooooo this is honestly one of those tough subjects that I did not want to write about. I was afraid I wouldn’t say the right thing or something like that. I've started many post in which all ended up being deleted. I’m determined to publish this one though!
I've done a large amount of research on this topic.... I've read many books, talked to numerous girls, searched the Bible, talked to multiple counselors about it, and simply sought the face of God over this whole issue. The truth is our churches are very hush hush about this issue. It is not something we generally have a Bible study about although it is something that many women deal with. The statistic of women who have encountered some form of sexual abuse during some time of their life is 1 out of 4 women. That means that if you are in a small group setting or 12 ladies 3 have had some encounter with sexual abuse. How sad is that? Most women go most of their lives without ever telling anyone.
Girls, abuse/rape is a serious thing. It is not something you can just "get over". I honestly cannot tell you how to get over it or a 5 step process to healing, but i can give you some hope. You can be healed! It will take time and energy, but it is possible! One of the major lies that women believe though is that once they have had their innocence taken that they are no longer a virgin. This is NOT true!! Sweetie, if you have had anything taken away from you it is not as if you gave it away! I whole heartedly believe that God still views you as Holy, whole, and not at all dirty. When people abuse others they often try to shift the guilt onto the victim. Please do not believe it... You are still whole, clean, and lovely! It was not your fault!
Final words... get some help. This may be one of the hardest things you ever do although I promise you it will be the best thing you ever. You may have been hurt by a father, brother, uncle, boyfriend, or someone you never even knew. The possibilities are endless. No matter who hurt you though you still need to tell. Find someone who will not only keep your secret safe, but also be able to help you. Tell a teacher, pastor, friend, or your parents! Just.tell.someone. If it is going on right now and you do not know what to do, get help immediately. Even if you aren’t sure whether it is sexual abuse or not, ASK! I have no doubt that it is if you are questioning it. Do not fear that the person you tell with think less of you or anything of the sort. More people care about you than you know!
You are not guilty, dirty, scared, or beyond healing. You are according to God Precious, beautiful, lovely, whole, special, and a treasure! Live your life today as though you believe that!
Praying for each one of you girls who have experienced this type of thing!