Saturday, February 13, 2010

Feeling Alone....

Hi Precious Daughters of the King! :) Whats up? So, first off... I'm sorry this is a day late! Life is insane... Secondly, when trying to decide what to post about I decided to go with some real life experience... Sound good? Hope so!

Have you ever felt alone? Like no one really cares about you and you just wish some guy found you attractive... Even if you just turned down a guy a few days earlier. You can be in a crowd of people or the most popular person around yet you still feel as if no one TRULY cares about you. Have you ever felt that way? I know I have... recently in fact. I ask you this today for the simple fact that I want you to know that you are not alone! As souled out to purity as I am I often forget this. When I see friends who have made wrong choices with guys and have pretty much given themselves away, yet they have good guys still it hurts. It makes me wonder if it is worth the wait... Am I the only single person in this world? Is there something wrong with me that makes guys not like me? The answer is absolutely not! One of the biggest lies that satan will use on you if you are single or if you are pursuing purity is that you are the only one who is trying! No one can make it on their own...

This is a quote that I took out of the book, "Lady In Waiting" it says, " Rather than staying home worrying about another dateless Saturday night, realize how much valuable time has been entrusted to you at this point in your life. Rather than resent your many single hours, embrace them as a gift from God, a package that contains opportunities to serve Him that are limited only by your own self pity and lack of obedience.". Did you get that last part? So often we let our self pity and our lack of obedience (To find joy in every situation) hinder us from what all God has planned for us! Do you want it to be that way? I doubt it... SO, with all the love in my heart (I'm saying this to myself also!) GET OVER YOUR SELF PITY! Serve God in ways that you can only do at this stage in your life!

Also, with God there is no such thing as being alone. A friend of mine and I were discussing this and here is what we came up with. With God we are never truly alone, yet we can feel lonely. We are made to want to be with someone! Feeling lonely and feeling all alone is totally different things. Following me?

With all that said...when you are feeling lonely what are some things you can do to get over that? First off pray... talk to God! He wants to hear that you are lonely... It also helps take away that twinge of pain. Secondly, Read a book or listen to music! I do not advise love novels or something that will just make you feel worse, but something that will lift your spirits! Also, have you ever thought of writing your future husband? I LOVE it!! Even though it sounds ridiculous it helps you focus on the one guy that you should be focusing on, your future husband! Tell him your thoughts, hurts, fears, joys, loves, everything! You can tell him how hard it is on your to wait, yet you are still pursuing it! It will mean the world to him one day! :)

I hope this helps! Just remember... you are not alone!

JEN

6 comments:

Melody said...

Thank you so much for this post! I've been thinking about this alot recently, and you're right. If I just get my eyes off myself I can focus on all the things I can be doing for God in this time of waiting.
Thanks for the great post! :)

~Melody

Love Unawakened said...

You are more than welcome! I'm sure we are not the only ones.... it just feels as if we are sometimes! Thanks! :)

~ JEN

valerie said...

I love the idea of writing letters! I have never thought of that before! What a cool idea! Thank you for your thoughts! God bless! <3

-valerie

Taylor said...

Thanks Jen!!!! This was encouraging to read :) especially with valentine's day coming lol. And single girls...never feel like you're the only one. God has introduced me to several other amazing single girls who inspire and encourage me all the time :)

Far From Perfect said...

Thank you Jen for this beautiful post!

SocialButterfly said...

Dear Jen,
I think it is amazing that you posted this because a few months ago I did exactly what you said! I wrote a letter to my future husband. I have it safely hidden away so I can give it to him someday and I actually have written more than one (i think I have written 3) but it does help. When I start feeling lonely, I think of him and what he must be feeling too. I pray for him everytime I think of my own struggles in life. Oh and I love ur blog! Keep up the great work!

~Butterfly