Friday, February 19, 2010

Your Kisses...worthless or priceless?

Hey darlin! What did you first think of when you read the title? Hopefully you did not think, "Oh yeah, my kisses are worthless"! We have all heard enough purity speeches to know that they are not...yet how many of us actually act as if they are priceless? Sadly, even though many of us know this we do not do a very good job of living it out... what do I mean? What does it take for a guy to get a kiss from you? Does just being your boy friend make him deserve a kiss from you? What if he says, "I really do love you baby... if you loved me you would show me!"? I wholeheartedly believe that girls think they owe it to guys.... God put your lips on your body for a reason....for YOU to decide who you give them to! Can your parents decide for you? No, as much as they wish they could they can not fully decide that. Only you can.




Have you ever viewed your kisses as a gift? Something that only you can give to someone else? Side note right here.... NO ONE has the right to take anything from you! That does not mean that they wont....but it is not right. No matter who they are! We may talk about this more in one of the upcoming post. Back to how your kisses are a gift to be given.... I totally understand that kissing someone is not having sex with them....yet I also realize that it is very personal and whether you want to feel attached to the person or not after it takes place it is almost impossible for a girl to not feel attached to the person. We are just made that way! I remember a friend of mine who I highly trust once told me, "Jen, kissing is extremely close to being as personal as having sex.". When she first said that i was shocked, but it makes sense.... think about it! You may have had a bad first kiss experience and so you may be thinking, "ummmmm what the crap?! thats all i have to look forward to?!". No, I'm talking about passionate personal kissing. Ok?



I've had many girls ask me, "If we both really like each other and may start dating soon is it ok for us to kiss?". What do you think? Just to be totally honest.... you are setting your self up for heart ache. If this guy truly likes you he will wait! What about as a birthday gift? He will think that you gave him the best birthday present ever!! Can I tell you how sick to my stomach this makes me? For the simple fact that for a girl to be willing to do this (We are talking that these people are just friends and nothing more) she does not value herself or the gift of her kisses one bit. One day when she shares with her husband who all she has kissed first off, she will most likely not be able to remember all the guys she has kissed, secondly if she does she will have to admit (Im using sarcasm here, but just realize how hurtful it will be to her future husband!) to him that in her early teen years she was invited to this guys birthday party and she didn't really know what to give him, so she just decided that she would kiss him or that she wanted him to tell his friends and so that she would become "popular" with the guys and so she gave him what he wanted. Is that being respectful to your future husband or yourself at all?! No..... Now is the time that you are creating the story that you will have to tell your husband one day! It's worth a thought....

I just wanted to leave you with a verse... 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.". Is who you kiss, how you kiss, and where you kiss bringing honor to God? If it is innocent and you guys have both set your standards as far as what you feel is right and wrong and you are out in the open then I think that it is perfectly fine. You know how many times that is not the case though... Just remember this verse and how it says that your body is GOD'S temple!!!! Honor it!




Love,
JEN

7 comments:

Far From Perfect said...

beautiful reminder... thank you Jen!

Charity said...

Lovely reminder - I am a "courting gal" - I am going to court not date and my parents have impressed this very deeply on me: your lips and your body and your thoughts are only for one man - your husband.

Taylor said...

Thanks! That's a really cool philosophy! I never thought of it that way.

Emily Shae said...

Hey! Thanks for the comment! I really loved this post!

Blessings & Joy,
Emily

Milli said...

Yello!
Thanks for commenting my my blog:]
Lovely reminder...

Katherine said...

Awesome post! Thank G-d for young ladies who speak the truth! I don't know if it was Jen or Kat that left a comment on my blog, but thank you ;)

Blessings,
Katherine

Love Unawakened said...

You are more than welcome girls! Thanks for checking out the blog! If any of you would like to share your stories as to how you are waiting feel free to let me know! My e-mail is jennifer.rochester@charter.net. Thanks for the comments! :)