Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Confidence Under Scrutiny

Ever been asked those awkward purity questions? It's anything from, "Why don't you have a boyfriend?" to "why aren't you ever alone with a boy?" and it's extremely uncomfortable. While usually I receive the lesser of the awkward questions, regarding if i have a boyfriend or not, why i don't have one, etc. it is still something I face a lot. How do you answer them? Why do they always make us feel insecure? That's kinda what I want to talk about tonight.

First off, how do you answer them? Sometimes it's tricky, depending on the person you are talking to. Sometimes you have to answer a guy differently than you would a girl. You always need to be aware of who that person is and where they are coming from. Whatever I do, I always try to be honest with the person, and careful not to seem judgemental. I mean, would I want someone shoving their purity standards down my throat if I don't agree with them? Be very respectful of people who ask these questions, your respect could make a bigger impact than the overall answer of the question.

But there is a whole other side to this subject. The way we tend to feel insecure while answering these questions. I refuse to believe that I am the only one who struggles with what people think of me from time to time. I find I have to keep that in check more when I'm being grilled about my beliefs. When asked these questions, I feel like people are sizing me up, and labelling me. I feel like they are looking at me and thinking, this girl is psycho to live like that. And honestly, I have to ask myself "why do I care?" I mean, I am a sold out Jesus Freak and I am not ashamed of that in the least. So why do I care that someone is asking me questions just so they can label me? God did not give me a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power. I'm looking at a door of opportunity to share my faith like a door to a torture chamber. Girls, we can't be ashamed of the decision we've made. Following God's will is the most rewarding thing we could ever do. Don't be ashamed of who you are! Keep going strong! TTYL!


Katie G. said...

I agree whole heartedly!

Love Unawakened said...

AMEN!! I often just say that I havent found a guy that I could really see myself marrying. That way it isnt really degrading to the guys bc it isnt saying, "You arent good enough for me" or "I dont like you" bc the truth is there are many that are good guys that deserve great wives, but they just arent the ones for me! Thats just the way I normally handle it! :)

Ashley said...

Loved that post!! I have a lot of people who ask me that including guys! I struggle with caring about what people think, but I always end up saying the truth without being judgmental. Thnx for the encouragement.