Friday, December 18, 2009

Good or Bad Flirt?!

What is your definition of flirting? For today's post we are going to say that flirting is paying extra special attention to someone, following them constantly, touching them in more than a friendly way, and basically just craving their attention/approval. Got it? You do not have to be all of these to be a flirt, one is enough. So, the question.... Is flirting ok? A few years ago I had a BIG problem with girls flirting, although I have changed my mind some. See girls... its all in the attitude of your heart. If you truly like the guy and you feel as if it is God's will then it is fine to show him a little extra attention. Although, often girls flirt just to get attention.... this is wrong. If you do not like the guy then do not lead him on. he has feelings also! Also, you need to find your satisfaction in Christ...and not a guy. I asked a few different guys about this and one of their responses truly impressed me... He made the comment that neither one (the guy or the girl) should have to flirt to get the attention of the other. If they are both in God's will then they will attract each other without anything that they do themselves. Isn't that a cool thought?! Honestly it can kinda be relieving! Kat mentioned the verse Psalm 37:4 in an earlier post. It says, "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.". Girls! I cannot say this loud enough.... DELIGHT YOURSELF IN THE LORD! Truth is, people will leave you, hurt you, abandon you, and anything else you can imagine... but God will not! Girls flirt to get love... although God is love (1 John 4:8 God is love.). Precious Daughters of the King, do not sale yourself for less just because you want that guy to notice you! If he notices you for your low cut shirt or provocative moves then there will soon be another girl that has and can do the same thing. Before I end my sermon... ;) I think it is the coolest thing ever that the King of Kings and Lord of Lords wants to spend time with me every second of the day (Note* I did not say every Sunday or once a day!)!! How is that possible?! Because He LOVES you... He loved you enough to die on the cross for you! Yes, YOU! I do not know about you, but any of the guys that i would even think about flirting wouldn't come close to dieing for me. You may also be asking, how can i spend every second with Him? I do have a life you know! That is true... By keeping your eyes focused on Him! Let the decisions you make, the actions you take, the words that you say, the thoughts that you think, and anything else go through God. It has become overused through the years, but the saying "WWJD" (What would Jesus do?) is SO real! Ask yourself that through out the day and if you follow your hearts answer you will be following God the whole day! Talk with God also! He is ALWAYS willing to listen and like i said earlier... Its the coolest thing! He wants to talk to you! How awesome is that?!?!

Anyway, If you still feel as if there is a need to flirt though... then how far is ok? Say you like a guy and you want him to know... what is a good way of handling it? Basically coming on to strong would be constantly txting them first, iming them practically every time they get on, and calling them names such as "baby", "Hottie", "babe" and so on before they ever go past your regular name. Yes, sometimes guys like girls chasing them. It boost their ego! Although... most guys in their heart of hearts would rather be the seeker... that is the way God created them! If you do not believe me then keep reading and see what some guys said themselves!

"It is definantly a turn off for a girl to be very forward. Especially when the guy has a girl friend!!! Have some self control!" - 15 year old guy

"It is ok for girls to lead guys on and let them know that you like them, ut it should totally be the guy who goes after the girl and that ask her out." - 18 year old guy

"I believe that it is God's job to bring the two people together, not theirs. If they are both seeking God then HE will bring them together. As far as the relationship goes... the man should be the leader though." - 14 year old guy

See girls.... this world tells us that love is a fight... but it isn't! Trust God... and remember the focus of your heart will be visible to others! Whether you want it to be or not....

With care,
JEN

1 comment:

♥mockingbird♥ said...

I really like what that guy said about God attracting two people to each other when it is his will. that is such an awesome way to think of it that I'd never seen before.
Also, how you said that WWJD should be how we are thinking constantly is true... but I think it goes deeper than that, to How Would Jesus Think? cause a lot of times it's easy to go through the motions and act out in front of people you want to impress... but it's really tough to constantly keep the mind of Christ.
thanks for this!