Saturday, January 23, 2010

Whose the Leader and who is the follower?

Did you ever play the game, "Follow the Leader" as a child? I loved that game because when I was the leader everyone followed me and when someone else was the leader I knew exactly what to do. Wouldn't it be amazing if life was that simple? You knew exactly what to do and who to follow! No one to try to get you away from what the leader was doing because they were all trying to do it also!

So, if you are wondering where I'm going with this... we are going to talk about mentoring and who we should follow. Now, any good (meaning someone who listens!:)) Sunday school attendant knows that we should follow Jesus! He is our ultimate role model. Yet, how awesome would it be to have someone whom you can touch, see, and who also like you and I are not perfect to look to as an example! I firmly believe that God did not make us to live this life alone! We weren't created to hurt, struggle, fight temptation, or just to be able to make it through life on our own! Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says, "Two are better than one...for if they fall one will lift up the other.". Do you have someone who you look up to? I'm going to go ahead and be straight up honest here... Just because someone is your mentor does not mean they will not let you down or hurt you because they are human also, yet God created us for friendship! One of those friendships being a leader/follower friendship!

Here are some things you can look for in the person as you are trying to find a mentor if you do not already have one!

*Someone who is further along in their walk with Christ than you
*Someone who is a good listener
*Someone who cares about you and takes interest in your life
*Someone who has time and finds you pretty high on their priority list
*Someone who will pray for you and with you
*Someone who loves God above all else
*Someone who will tell you the truth even when it hurts
*Someone who is trustworthy

Do you know someone who fits into these categories? If not... pray about it!! God will send you the perfect person! Trust me... been there and done that! He has a better plan than you could ever put together! :) If you have someone in mind, but you aren't sure how to approach it, just start by talking to them! Get comfortable with them and then when the time is right explain how you are looking for a mentor and you think that they would be perfect.

Girls, this world tells us that we can do it on our own, we are better than guys (Heck! We only need them for one reason!), and that we only need God to get to Heaven (If they are even willing to admit that!). Is that true though? NO! We need each other... we need to know that we are loved, cherished, and appreciated. We need someone to laugh with us during the good times, bounce around with us during the excited times, and cry with us during the hard times. It's the way we were made! There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

One final thought... I've observed that the girls who do not have very many girl friends often have many guys. It's not a bad thing and it is not always the case. I want to ask you though, Are you that girl? You want love so bad... You want to be heard... you want to be cared about... Yet you just have no idea where to get it. Guys offer it for a little while so that's better than nothing! First, I challenge you to seek the face of God... Only He can give you the fulfillment you truly want! Secondly though... find some girl friends! Some who not only like boys, but also love God! It will change your outlook on life.... Trust me! :)

Much love,


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