Tuesday, March 16, 2010


Before I get started today, I want to put a little warning sign on this post. WARNING: This post is bound to make people mad at me. This post may make you feel defensive about your views of purity. But I also want you to know that I'm not out to hurt your feelings, make you angry, or put you on the defense. I believe this is a very real issue that needs to be addressed, so I'm venturing into controversial territory and stating my belief. Today, we are going to be talking about Public Displays of Affection, be it in person or on the internet.

First of all, the realm of church. Okay girls, I'll admit that one of my pet peeves is boyfriends and girlfriends hanging all over each other during a church service. To be completely honest, I do not believe for one second that you are focusing on God when you are hanging all over your boyfriend during church. A while back we had a sign over our youth room doors that said "Enter with a heart of worship." When you are hugging your boyfriend, holding his hand, and flirting you do not have a heart of worship towards God. I am a teenager myself, I know full well that so many hormones are flying when you think about guys that worshipping God is the last thing on your mind. Church is a place to set your relationships aside and focus on Christ, and it breaks my heart to see so many people miss a great message from God cuz they are too busy focusing on their boyfriends.

Now on to the realm of public, not including church. Okay, I can stand hand holding and a hug or two. But it's kinda gross to see couples practically making out in front of a large crowd. When you are hanging all over your boyfriend it gives off the impression that you are all wrapped up in him and everything else falls by the wayside when he's around. Call me mean, but it's true. Now we've talked about guys not being your center focus, but when you are constantly hugging him it certainly looks like he's your ONLY focus.

And now, the internet. Another pet peeve of mine, posting a photo of you and your boyfriend kissing as your facebook profile picture, or anywhere on your profile for that matter (told you this would make you mad). Okay, to be frank, you're the only one who cares about you and your boyfriend kissing, the rest of us don't need to see that. And you just posted to the entire world, or at least everyone on your friends list, a picture of you kissing. Think about it for just a minute. When you post that on the internet, what are people going to automatically think? I'll tell you what I most often hear: "If they're posting that on the internet, how much further are they going off-screen?" Now I'm not saying that any of you go further off screen, but it can certainly give that impression to people.

Okay now that I've completely ticked you off, let me get straight to the point. I personally believe that when the Bible says "not even a hint of sexual immorality" it means not even kissing. Other people see it differently and I'm not condemning them. But if you are going to take part in PDA, please keep it minimal. Please keep it out of church, that's not the place to do it. And please, think twice before you post that picture of you and your boyfriend kissing.

Love, Kat


Anonymous said...

AMEN! Awesome post, and I could not agree more! I hate PDA, and I agree with everything you said...I have seen the most horrible, disgusting, and sinful PDA(including a guy reaching down his girls pants while in WalMart) and it is just horrible...and smooching in photos and plastering them on facebook? While it may be a special moment for you and your guy, its not for us...and it does get people wondering. I mean, i perfectly understand Wedding Photos, but that is completely different.
Awesome post! =D

Katherine said...

NIce post, but I don't agree that if you are constantly hugging your boyfriend (I don't believe in dating so it would be my husband for me) that it means you are completely wrapped up in him.Think of a mother, with her baby. She's always tending the baby, loving the baby, taking care of the baby. Does this mean she isn't devoted to G-D at those times? Every moment I hug my husband, doesn't necessarily have to be a moment not close to G-D. Just my opinion ;)


Anonymous said...

Interest point Katherine. = )
However, I do think its a lot different hugging a boyfriend than a husband. A boyfriend, especially if in the teen years, are not forever, but a husband is. =) We are commanded to love our husbands, so hugging our husbands is like fulfilling a role God has given! =D
However, boyfriends aren't mentioned, so...
But I think she just means really for places like church...I have seen girls come in with their boyfriends, and they are not listening...they are flirting with their guy, and talking 'silently' to him.
At least that's how I feel about it. = )

Love Unawakened said...

I totally agree with Kathryn! I do think that there is a difference between, "Hanging all over a guy" and "Hugging a guy". Hugging is fine, but there are definately boundaries...

Also you have to think about how what you are doing affects other people. First off, your boy friend or friend (who ever you are doing it with!). You may be able to concentrate (Im giving some leniance here. Even though im sure I wouldnt be able to!) is he? Guys are wired different... What about your friends who are sitting around you. Are you making it hard for them to concentrate? From experience, yes. Whether it is their business or not what you guys are doing... They can still see and that can easily be more interesting than the message.

Jen =)

Tiffany said...

Wow I totally agree with your post!!!

Katherine said...

A Hopeful Romantic- I agree! Church is not the place ;) All I meant to say is the difference between husband's and boyfriend's. With boyfriend's- I am even more strict- no dating at all allowed ;)

Anonymous said...

Awesome post!!!!! I totally agree with you! You don't make me mad at all! I also agree with A hopeful romantic, hugging your husband is totally different then hugging a boyfriend! OUr family and husband are to be our biggest focus, apart from God, in life. We are to devote our lives to them.